If you ask a coworker how their weekend was, you’ll probably hear these two words: “Too short.” For many of us, those 48 hours fly by every single week.
A Friday night, Saturday and Sunday (minus the “Sunday scaries” period) are simply not long enough—especially these days, it seems. There’s so much to cram into a weekend, from catching up on sleep, spending time with loved ones, finishing chores, running errands, incorporating relaxation and, let’s be real, catching up on work. If you don’t have enough time to do it all (at least to the extent that you want and need), you’re not alone. A lot of people are groaning alongside you every Sunday night.
Weekends just don’t feel like weekends. That can feel frustrating, disheartening and exhausting. When we look forward to—and need—those two free days so much, feeling like it ended before it started is quite the bummer, to put it mildly.
So, why don’t weekends feel like enough anymore? What hidden things steal our recovery time? What’s the psychology behind it all, and how can we make these mini breaks from work feel like true “time off” again? A psychologist shares validation, insight and tips. Hopefully, Saturdays and Sundays will begin to “hit” again (or for the first time).
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The Psychology of Weekend Burnout: Why 48 Hours No Longer Feels Like Enough
Weekends don’t often feel like “weekends” because there’s too much to do during them—especially in a society that pushes us to do all those things listed above. Plus, even if you enjoy those tasks, they’re still things you “have” to get done. Further, that’s not even considering other things you might want to do, like catch up on your favorite TV show or sleep in.
“For a lot of people, weekends don’t feel like enough because they’re spent catching up on everything they didn’t have time for during the week,” validates Dr. Meghan Marcum, PsyD, the Chief Psychologist of A Mission For Michael in San Juan Capistrano, CA. “Whether that be household responsibilities, running errands, social obligations or unfinished tasks from work, oftentimes, weekends come with their own ‘to-do lists.’”
She adds that dreading Mondays is “deeply human.”
“Transitioning from the weekend back into a structured and demanding work week can trigger stress and anxiety, and even if you’re technically off the clock, your attention may already be on what’s waiting for you when the weekend is over,” she tells Parade.
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The 4 Major Drivers Stealing Your Weekend Recovery Time
According to Dr. Marcum, four main phenomena keep your weekend from being as restorative as possible.
1. Digital tethering
Watching an endless stream of TikTok videos and Instagram reels can feel good and tempting in the moment, and it’s nice to have time for it. However, screens can actually steal your weekend recovery time and even feel draining, per InspiraHealth. Consider spending more time offline.
“On the weekends, one work notification can be enough to put your brain back into ‘work mode’ and interrupt that psychological separation that is needed for a true work-life balance,” Dr. Marcum explains.
2. Work creep
Along the lines of “digital tethering,” constantly being on your phone or laptop means you see work notifications, which can contribute to “work creep.” This is when small work tasks start to spill into personal time, or you’re asked to do more and more. That could stem from you or your employer’s changing expectations.
“When answering one email turns into finishing ‘just one more’ task, your brain doesn’t recognize that the workday or workweek is actually over,” Dr. Marcum explains.
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3. Over-scheduling
You may want to do a lot of things over the weekend: see friends, go on a romantic date with your partner, catch up on your side hustle, craft, read, work out… it’s a lot to fit in, even if you enjoy all of those things.
“Over-scheduling can easily happen when you’re attempting to cram everything into a short period of time, often leaving you feeling more exhausted,” Dr. Marcum states. “While social plans can be enjoyable and even a way to recharge, it’s crucial to give yourself time to decompress before the new week starts, even if that’s just a few hours of time to yourself.”
4. The ‘Sunday scaries’
While the workweek may not start until Monday morning, it’s understandable if your Sunday evening (at least) is ruined with the dread of the week to come. You might worry about work before you’re even there.
“If you’re already thinking about what needs to be done during the week, or using Sunday to get ahead on work tasks, you’re not giving yourself enough time to fully recharge, which can easily lead to feelings of burnout,” Dr. Marcum shares.
In a way, it causes you to “work” hours that you’re not even really “working” (or getting paid for). It turns a 40-hour-a-week job into more like 45 or 50 hours.
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How the Mind Distorts Time When You’re Exhausted
Another phenomenon that steals your time is exhaustion.
“When you’re exhausted, your brain’s processing speed and attention span are reduced, which can distort your internal clock and concept of time,” Dr. Marcum explains. “Overstimulation can also lead to mental exhaustion and trigger a survival response, which can speed up your internal clock.”
How To Reclaim Your Weekend: Practical Ways to Make 48 Hours Count
With so much to do, prioritizing is obviously important. Dr. Marcum encourages prioritizing things that truly recharge you.
“Don’t feel like you need to fill every hour of the weekend just because you have two days off,” she continues. “Give yourself blocks of time where you have no responsibilities and you can focus on resting or hobbies that make you feel fulfilled.”
Dr. Marcum also recommends taking steps that will help your brain switch out of “work mode.” That might include sticking to a clear cutoff time for when the workweek ends, turning off your computer, silencing notifications and physically putting work materials away.
“Ultimately, the goal of the weekend shouldn’t be to recover as quickly as possible, or to be as productive as possible when you’re not working,” she adds. “If you’re not resting, you will burn out, and if your weekends are leaving you feeling like you need another weekend to recover, you may need to adjust the way your week is structured.”
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