"There are two components of emotional intelligence," explains Dr. Emily Guarnotta, PsyD, PMH-C, a psychologist, certified perinatal mental health specialist and the co-founder of Phoenix Health. "It is the ability to be aware of, understand and cope with your own emotions, as well as the ability to identify and understand others' emotions."She describes women with high EI as:
Self-aware (They understand what they feel and why)Good self-regulators (They healthily cope with their emotions)Empathic (They're able to understand another person's feelings)Socially skilled (They can navigate relationships and social dynamics effectively)12 Things Emotionally Intelligent Women Do Differently, According to Psychologists
Emotionally intelligent women are savvy when it comes to verbalizing their emotions."The average woman might say, 'You’re stressing me out,' lumping everything together and even suggesting that someone else is responsible for her feelings," explains Dr. Gayle MacBride, Ph.D., LPof Veritas Psychology Partners. "An emotionally intelligent woman says, 'I’m disappointed this project didn’t land the way I hoped.'"She shares that the emotionally intelligent phrase is specific but doesn't play blame games."Being specific like this also allows us to see that the stressor is temporary, which might even set us up for growth for next time," she adds.Related: 6 Toxic Phrases Emotionally Intelligent People Notice Before Anyone Else, According to Psychologists
2. Hits the pause button
One thing emotionally intelligent women don't do is say yes to everything—they know themselves too well to do that."A high EI woman understands that boundaries are necessary, and she is able to assert them without guilt," Dr. Guarnotta shares. "She asserts her boundaries respectfully, but unapologetically. This is a sign of EI because it requires self-awareness and self-regulation. It also requires tact in how she communicates her boundaries." Related: 11 Boundaries Every Woman Should Set by 40, According to Therapists
4. Engages in stress-reducing and soothing activities
Emotionally intelligent people may seem so put-together, and they are. However, no one gets their way all day, every day. "When passed over for a promotion, the average response might be self-criticism: 'I’ll never be good enough,' or even offloading hurt, 'They just can’t see my worth,'" Dr. MacBride says. "An emotionally intelligent woman reframes it."She explains that this mindset shift might sound like, “This hurts, but what skills can I sharpen so I’m the obvious choice next time?”"She makes it about the opportunity to learn something and do better next time," Dr. MacBride says. "Even if you don’t achieve the goal or outcome, there’s beauty in the growth that can occur."Related: 5 Things That Emotionally Intelligent People Do When They’re Disrespected
6. Prioritizes internal over external validation
Women with high emotional IQs have a perpetual growth mindset, and they know that it involves learning about ways that they can improve at work and in their personal lives. "She wants to know how others are experiencing her and to do better," Dr. Guarnotta says. "She views feedback as valuable in helping her grow, rather than something to fear. This is a sign of EI because it takes a well-regulated ego to be able to hear feedback without getting defensive and rejecting it."She points out that these women also know when to take someone's feedback with a grain of salt.Related: 8 Phrases To Shut Down Conflict That Instantly Make You Sound Classy
8. Takes accountability without over-apologizing
This one may look rather sadistic at first glance. But stick with us."Emotionally intelligent women allow others to be uncomfortable without rescuing or over-explaining," Dr. McGeehan notes. "I get real jacked about this one because it really bucks the narrative that good women need to rescue everyone around them."She points out that the average woman may—understandably, given generations of messaging—rush to try to smooth things over or lighten the mood. For instance, the average woman might start making jokes about how much she loathes bath time with her toddler after mentioning that she needs to be home for it, and therefore cannot take on a last-minute task at work."Emotionally intelligent women can hold space for discomfort, knowing that repair often requires a bit of rupture first," she says. "This capacity to stay grounded through emotional messiness is a profoundly beautiful way to build deep, meaningful connections with themselves and those around them."Related: If You Use These 3 Phrases, You Have Higher Emotional Intelligence Than Most, Psychologists Say
10. Asks for what they need
Emotionally intelligent women don't think of friends, family and colleagues as rivals."Emotionally intelligent women do not view life as a zero-sum game, recognizing that others' gain does not mean their loss," Dr. Vinall says.
12. Assumes the best in others
Want to develop more emotional intelligence? "Take a pause," Dr. Guarnotta advises. She explains that a pause means taking a moment between a trigger (like a comment about your career choice) and your reaction."It can be as simple as taking a deep breath or walking away for a minute," she explains. "This is one of the building blocks of self-regulation."During this pause, Dr. MacBride shares that you might ask yourself, "What’s my goal here?” or “How do I want this person to feel in response to what I say next?”"That short gap gives your brain time to switch from instinctive reaction to thoughtful choice," Dr. MacBride says. "When we respond with emotion, driving the bus, the Amygdala has taken control, and it can be a bit of a reactionary driver. Pausing interrupts emotional hijacks. It lets the prefrontal cortex come online and add a bit of reason and logic."That doesn't mean crafting an emotionless response—you're human after all."A response that is a blend of emotion and logic is often the sweet spot that helps keep healthy boundaries that align with your values and long-term goals, rather than escalating conflict or regretting impulsive words," she says.Up Next:
Related: 5 Things That Emotionally Intelligent People Do When They're Disrespected
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Dr. Deborah Vinall, Psy.D., LMFT, chief psychological officer with Recovered.orgDr. Brittany McGeehan, Ph.D., licensed psychologistDr. Emily Guarnotta, PsyD, PMH-C, psychologist, certified perinatal mental health specialist and the co-founder of Phoenix HealthDr. Gayle MacBride, Ph.D., LP psychologist and works with Veritas Psychology PartnersHence then, the article about 12 things emotionally intelligent women do that the average person avoids psychologists say was published today ( ) and is available on Parade ( Saudi Arabia ) The editorial team at PressBee has edited and verified it, and it may have been modified, fully republished, or quoted. You can read and follow the updates of this news or article from its original source.
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