Broadway actor Mandy Patinkin and playwright Kathryn Grody proudly describe themselves as “a mess – as individuals and as a couple”. In lockdown, you might have seen viral videos of the septuagenarian pair pop up on your feed, in which they bicker and joke affectionately in their messy upstate New York cabin, stuffed to the gills with the bric-a-brac of a lifetime shared together.
Like many of their 2.3 million followers, I was transfixed – their unvarnished, unfiltered lives felt like a homespun antidote to the ultra-glossy, polished videos that are all over Instagram and TikTok.
“We’re purposeful messes,” Grody recently told the New York Times. “I embrace being messy more than I ever have as a reaction against the whole AI, chatbot, algorithm world. I want to be messy. I want to be human.”
Grody isn’t the only person who is drawn to clutter and mess – both literal and metaphorical – as a means of defining ourselves against an increasingly homogenous, tech-enabled future. Kyla Scanlon, the financial educator and author of In This Economy?, argues that mess (or “friction”, as she calls it) can actually be a good thing for humans.
“When things are a little too easy, it’s tough to find meaning in it,” she points out. The trouble is that we are now split between two modes of existence: an online life that prioritises a smooth, frictionless experience above all else, and an offline one that is full of uncertainty, risk and the unexpected.
Take, for instance, the experience of ordering from a takeaway. Before the advent of UberEats and Deliveroo, you had to phone in your order or pick it up in person. All of this would take extra work; you had to speak to someone or leave the house. Boring!
With a delivery app, you don’t have to interact with anyone barring the anonymous rider who turns up at your door with the order. Easy-peasy, effort saved. But is that so ideal all the time? In the pre-app days, you might get to know the staff at your local takeaway. They might be able to recite your order from memory, just from the sound of your voice, or ask after your kids. Sometimes they might throw in some free prawn crackers or an extra roti, just because.
I don’t mean to romanticise a pre-internet age. There were plenty of annoying things about life before apps – after all, sometimes you just want to flop on the sofa hungover and have various treats delivered to you like a Roman child emperor.
But there’s plenty of evidence to suggest that these small human interactions – in all their potential messiness and friction – actually help to assuage loneliness. Researchers call these “weak social ties” and believe that they can boost our life satisfaction, whether that’s a friendly conversation with a barista at the cafe near your office, a fly-by chat with the local dogwalker or a quick exchange of hellos with the postie.
When I think about frictionless experiences, I think of sleek, Instagrammable places like Kim Kardashian’s uber-luxe $60m Californian mansion, where there isn’t a comfily worn sofa – let alone a stray cereal bowl – in sight. These are show homes for people who have hired help to tidy away the detritus of human existence. They are a mirror to our online lives, where everything we desire is merely a tap away on our phone or laptop, enabled by the invisible labour of countless others, like that faceless Deliveroo rider.
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Like a Kardashian in her palace of smoothly polished Italian marble, we can now live so smoothly that it feels like we are simply gliding over the surface of life, never actually engaging with what makes living meaningful: actual people. Little wonder that other cannier influencers are choosing to embrace mess. Actor Julia Fox and content creator Alix Earle were both recently celebrated when they shared videos of their chaotic homes, complete with overflowing clothes racks, toys and DIY craft supplies on the floor, and in Earle’s case, a broken toilet seat.
That’s not to say that all mess is desirable, or that using an app or getting ChatGPT to help you with an email isn’t convenient, particularly for those of us whose lives are already plenty difficult or stressful. I’m not arguing for us to go back to a pre-internet age. (Some feel even stronger about it than I do – according to one recent survey, almost half of 16 to 21-year-olds would prefer a world without the internet.)
But, as Scanlon puts it, “the idea of friction is that there is value in things being a tiny bit difficult”. To be alive is to embrace mess and friction, not seek to eliminate it completely. So go on – this summer, feel free to be your truest, messiest self. If someone asks you why you haven’t tidied away the dishes, just say that it’s all part of being human.
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