Growing up, the teachers, parents and grandparents in your life may have stressed the importance of saying "please" and "thank you." That lesson in polite manners was a worthy one. Yet, etiquette is about so much more than what you say or consciously do. In fact, you can come off as warm or rude without making a peep."When we are out and about, we are constantly sending messages about ourselves, even when we are not having a conversation," statesKristi Spencer, the owner of The Polite Company.We send these messages through what etiquette experts call "nonverbal cues.""Nonverbal cues are unconscious gestures we use to communicate with others," says Nikki Sawhney, an etiquette consultant and the director of the New England School of Protocol. "You could be saying the kindest and most thoughtful things, but if your nonverbal cues are off, they can send a completely different message."It appears that another childhood lesson (actions speak louder than words) was also on point. One message that nonverbal habits can send is that—bluntly—you're rude (even if that is 100% not your intent). Awareness is key to ensuring that your whole body and behavior align with what's coming out of your mouth."When we become more aware of our own actions, we can better understand how we are impacting the people around us," Spencer explains.To help you get your point across, etiquette experts share eight nonverbal habits that make you seem rude without realizing it. Plus, how to break those nonverbal behaviors.Related: These 11 Habits Will Make People Dislike You Fast, Etiquette Experts Warn
8 Nonverbal Habits That Make You Seem Rude Without Realizing It, Etiquette Experts Say
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2. Folded arms
We all do it unconsciously, but Sawhney warns that the gesture can give off a disengaged, defensive vibe."I remember sitting in a freezing conference room, folding my arms for warmth, not realizing that my posture came across as closed and dismissive," she says. "Even small adjustments in posture can dramatically shape how others perceive you."
4. Being late with no heads-up, apology or explanation
To start: tardiness isn't automatically rude."Lateness is tricky," Dreizen shares. "Public transportation, time blindness, unexpected delays... [can] make someone late even with the best attempts at being on time."Her beef isn't with being late, but more so with how it's handled."It's lateness with no recognition that you've let someone wait for you," she states. "Giving people a heads up if you can is always a good idea. If you cannot provide that, let them know you appreciate their patience afterwards."Related: 12 Habits That Give Off a Bad Vibe Without You Even Realizing It, According to Psychologists
6. Personal space invasion
A healthy distance can help you maintain close ties with professional contacts and prevent strangers from feeling closed in around you."While everyone has different boundaries, about 18 inches is a good general guideline for personal space," Spencer says. "Standing too close in line or touching someone unexpectedly is not only impolite, but it can also make people feel threatened."Related: An Etiquette Expert Is Begging People To Stop This ‘Rude’ Habit During Small Talk
8. Pointing at people
Mind your fingers."Pointing can come across as aggressive or judgmental," Spencer explains. "Many people have a natural aversion to being pointed at and may take it personally."Related: 13 Things People Say in Conversations That Make Them Instantly Unlikable, Etiquette Experts Warn
2. Recognition
You're going to make mistakes. So that and own it."None of us acts perfectly all of the time, so learning to say, 'I think I forgot to say thank you, so THANK YOU,' is important," Dreizen shares. "It is OK to be wrong. It is human to be wrong. But we can try and do better by recognizing and acknowledging our lack of thank you, our lateness, our smirk or whatever it may be."
3. Watch yourself
Related: 10 Social Behaviors That Make You Seem Unapproachable, According to Etiquette Experts
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Nikki Sawhney is an etiquette consultant and the director of the New England School of ProtocolKristi Spencer is the owner of The Polite CompanyGenevieve (Jenny) Dreizen is the COO and co-founder of Fresh Starts Registry, an etiquette expert and the author of Simple Scripts to Support Your People: What to Say When You Don’t Know What to Say.Hence then, the article about etiquette experts say these 8 nonverbal habits make you seem rude without realizing it was published today ( ) and is available on Parade ( Saudi Arabia ) The editorial team at PressBee has edited and verified it, and it may have been modified, fully republished, or quoted. You can read and follow the updates of this news or article from its original source.
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