Children are children, not mini-adults. It’s essential to remember that and treat them accordingly—especially regarding emotions and behavior. “They are allowed to have bad moods, complain and [throw] tantrums,” says Dr. Carrie Anne Dittner, PhD, a pediatric psychologist for 25 years who founded Peak City Psychology and is a mom of three boys. “It is not always disrespect; it is human. Adults have these same kinds of days!”Along those lines, she would never tell her children more than they need to know. She considers their developmental stage and what they need to hear about a situation.Related: People Who Were Parentified as Children Often Develop These 13 Traits as Adults
2. Choose their friends
Kids are seemingly getting smartphones at earlier and earlier ages. Despite that being the norm, it’s important to wait until your child is ready. “While phones become necessary for communication and safety as children reach a certain age, limiting access to phones with internet until they're necessary, having conversations around appropriate use and what behaviors might get their access taken away (e.g., if phone use is getting in the way of sleep) and restricting access during certain hours, like at night, can help prevent online bullying, unsafe activity like sharing location or pictures with strangers, and phone use that is excessive or interfering with schoolwork or other priorities,” says Dr. Francesca Penner Lord, PhD, a licensed psychologist at the Coping Resource Center who works with youth and young adults and has two young children.On that note, she encourages parents to avoid giving their kids too much screentime, especially when they're little. It can distract from what’s more important, like being outside and family time.Related: Parenting Expert Warns: Avoid Making This 1 Screen Time Mistake With Toddlers
4. Ignore their good behaviors and accomplishments
Have you ever said, "Because I said so” or “Because I'm the parent”? That’s understandable: Parents know better than children do in many situations, and you may just want them to listen without questioning. However, not explaining the “why” is something Dr. Lord avoids with her kids.“Part of authoritative parenting, which we know is an effective parenting style, is implementing rules and boundaries but explaining why the rules are in place (to keep them safe, for example),” she says. “As my children get older, I plan to keep doing this even as rules change based on their developmental stage.”Related: 2 ‘Gentle Parenting’ Traps a Developmental Psychologist Is Calling Out
6. Protect them from feelings
7. Punish them
Dr. Dittner knows this one isn’t popular, but she believes it anyway. She suggests helping kids learn differently.“I believe in natural consequences and discipline and teaching,” she says. “There is a difference.” Haven’t heard of “natural consequences”? Here’s an example: Your child leaves their homework at home. Rather than taking away their phone or grounding them, you allow the natural consequence of a lower grade.Related: A Clinical Psychologist Is Begging Parents and Grandparents To Stop Making This Punishment Mistake
What Child Psychologists Prioritize Doing With Their Kids
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