Behavioral health expert and senior research scientist at EDC Shai Fuxman explains, "Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, understand and manage one’s own emotions, as well as to identify and respond to the emotions of others," he explains. "It includes skills such as effectively regulating stress and showing empathy in interpersonal interactions." Having a high level of emotional intelligence also means you're able to pick up on subtle social cues and nuances when it comes to the emotional reactions of others. In fact, Fuxman says it's a vital skill to have in the workplace. "Leaders and managers who possess high emotional intelligence are not only better at managing their own emotions, but also excel at supporting team members and fostering positive, productive relationships," he explains.Related: 16 Things People With High Emotional Intelligence Often Say, According to Psychologists
What Are Some Characteristics of Someone With High Emotional Intelligence?
One of the surefire signs of emotional intelligence is that you notice other people's microexpressions. Microexpressions are brief, easy to miss, and often completely involuntary expressions that reveal how someone is really feeling deep down. Dr. Francheska Perepletchikova, PhD, tells Parade that gestures and expressions are just as important in communication as words."When it comes to face to face encounters, communication isn’t just the meaning of the words we speak," she explains. "The tone in which they're said, the way we gesture when speaking, the disconnect between our expression and our claims all contribute to a fuller picture and intuitive understanding of what’s really being spoken even if it's never said out loud."According to Dr. Perepletchikova, those with higher levels of emotional intelligence not only gauge someone’s basic expression, they pick up on slight changes in a person's smile or a hint of crow's feet when talking about something they truly love. "Microexpressions can reveal an entirely new dimension to a person and shed light on their motivations and intentions that go unspoken in their otherwise carefully reasoned and censored responses," she adds.
2. You notice the posture and gestures of others
To complete the triad of key nonverbal cues, Dr. Perepletchikova explains that those who are emotionally intelligent can accurately assess someone's tone of voice and speech patterns which may reveal that there's more to someone's words than they're implying."An individual with high emotional intelligence doesn’t just notice overall tone," she says. "They pick up on someone speaking faster and louder or a change in their diction. They may notice someone’s accent turning heavier, or if they suddenly go into a flow state instead of sounding like they’re reading off a script."Dr. Perepletchikova says that these are the kinds of subtle social cues the average person may not notice, but are obvious to an emotionally intelligent individual. But importantly, beyond noticing, they also care about what these cues can mean.Related: 10 Phrases ‘Poor Communicators’ Often Use in Everyday Conversation, According to Psychologists
4. You're able to pick up on when someone needs space
5 Common Traits of Emotionally Intelligent People
Accepting constructive criticism from others with grace is a key component of being emotionally intelligent. Dr. Perepletchikova shares that emotionally intelligent individuals have a better capacity to handle disagreements and feedback of this nature.She says, "They are generally more willing to accept their own pitfalls and can better regulate their own emotions. Instead of screaming back or refusing to acknowledge what was said, they are more likely to listen, process what is and isn't factual, and then learn from the experience. If an accusation is baseless, they can maintain composure and handle the situation level-headedly. If there's some truth to the critique, they don't automatically generalize that to mean they're a total failure or are being treated unfairly. In that way, emotional intelligence allows a person to be more effective in handling adversities, regardless of the rest of their smarts. They don't need to win every battle."Related: 7 Signs Someone Feels ‘Emotionally Isolated,’ Even Around Loved Ones, According to a Psychologist
2. You listen to the feedback of others and learn from your mistakes
Like Dr. Perepletchikova mentioned previously, emotionally intelligent people don't feel the need to prove themselves or "win" in a conversation. This means you have the ability to de-escalate a situation with ease, whether that's between others in the workplace or in a disagreement you might be having."Understanding others' emotional states and boundaries can help calm an otherwise explosive encounter or cue an individual when it's the right time to leave an interaction completely," she adds. "They know how to pick their battles if there's no obvious route towards peace."Related: If You Use These 3 Phrases, You Have Higher Emotional Intelligence Than Most, Psychologists Say
4. You never demean someone else's joy
5. You show and feel genuine empathy for the situations of others
While Dr. Perepletchikova says that anyone can train themselves to be more perceptive of nonverbal cues, not everyone can express consistent genuine empathy for someone else's situation. If you do this, you're highly emotionally intelligent. "Individuals with a high amount of emotional intelligence don't only intuitively latch onto nonverbal social cues but actually care about what they mean for someone," she says. "The subtleties of these cues are more noticeable to them precisely because they can put themselves in another's shoes and experience their emotional weight alongside them."She also adds that an individual with high EI won't only notice if someone is acting differently, but will likely go out of their way to ask if they're alright or offer help when needed. "They won’t immediately try to fix someone else's problems or give unsolicited advice. Instead, they'll just listen to what they have to say without speaking over them and validate their distress. They'll tend to relate to a person and make them more comfortable with sharing their own similar problems and experiences, not to indebt someone, but out of genuine compassion. Their empathy does not come behind a paywall of 'if I help you, you'll help me.' An emotionally intelligent individual usually just wants to help."
Related: 5 Things That Emotionally Intelligent People Do When They're Disrespected
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Shai Fuxman, behavioral health expert and senior research scientist at EDCDr. Lisa Marie Bobby, PhD, licensed psychologist, founder and CEO of Growing Self Counseling and CoachingDr. Francheska Perepletchikova, PhD, licensed psychologist and founder of Child DBTHence then, the article about 4 social cues emotionally intelligent people always notice was published today ( ) and is available on Parade ( Saudi Arabia ) The editorial team at PressBee has edited and verified it, and it may have been modified, fully republished, or quoted. You can read and follow the updates of this news or article from its original source.
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