“Guilt-tripping can become a substitute for expressing needs in healthy ways,” Dr. Johnson says. “This can lead to the person who is guilting to feel resentful because they’re vaguely sharing what they’d like and then placing responsibility on the other person to figure out how to fulfill those needs.” This, in turn, may make you perpetually feel as if you fall short of meeting the guilt-inducing person’s vague requests because you aren’t sure what’s being asked. “This cycle creates increased resentment in both individuals, and can lead to the demise of a relationship,” she points out.
8 Subtle Guilt-Tripping Phrases That Are Easy To Miss, According to a Psychologist
While it’s entirely possible that the person is legitimately busy with another task, according to Dr. Johnson, this phrase might be confusing as to whether the person is truly occupied or is making a passive-aggressive statement for being asked to do the task. “This lack of clarity can make it easy to miss as a guilt-inducing comment,” she observes. If this phrase comes up, find out if they’re “truly committing to fulfilling the request,” as Dr. Johnson says, and politely ask for a timeline and/or deadline.
2. “So, I’m just for the worst person for…”
The guilt-tripper might say phrases like this followed by a smirk or laughter. This is their way of expressing resentment with the help of a joke.“The person creating guilt is disguising what they really feel by making a joke of it,” Dr. Johnson says. “Since it’s packaged as a joke, it’s assumed that it shouldn’t be taken seriously.” To combat these types of phrases, she recommends approaching it directly by seeking clarity on whether it is a joke or if there are true emotions behind the statement. Related: People Who Were Raised by Helicopter Parents Often Develop These 9 Traits as Adults, a Psychologist Says
4. “Oh, you should have reminded me you wanted my help.”
Dr. Johnson says that while this phrase may appear to be a helpful suggestion, it’s actually crossing boundaries around autonomy. “This comment seems harmless enough, however, it’s crossing boundaries and has the other person question their decision,” she adds. For this, she says that you can explore the rationale for why the suggestion is being made and hold to your decision, possibly stating, “I feel good about my decision, and I’m not comfortable with changing it.”Related: 10 Subtle Signs a Friendship Is Draining You, Psychologists Warn
6. “Either is fine. I don’t care.”
Guilt-trippers excel at playing the victim, and they may use this phrase to come across as such. “It may seem matter-of-fact to state needs, but there’s a contrast here where the person agrees to do the task but is also stating what’s being sacrificed in order to complete it,” Dr. Johnson says. Here’s a phrase she shares you can reply with: “I’d rather that you be honest with yourself about whether you’d like to do this or not.”Related: How To Deal With a Gaslighter, According to a Psychologist
8. “Remember what a pain it was to…”
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