There is a specific kind of confidence that comes from sitting in a salon chair and deciding, in a moment of radical trust or possibly mild dissociation, to hand over all decision-making authority to another human being. “Do whatever you want,” you say, feeling generous and spontaneous and very main character. Your stylist smiles, but you do not see the expression that briefly crosses their face before the smile arrives.
The thing about how to talk to your hairstylist is that the relationship works best as a collaboration, not an abdication. Your stylist knows hair—texture, density, face shape, what grows out gracefully and what becomes a situation. What they don’t know, without you telling them, is how much time you actually spend on your hair in the morning (be honest!), whether you’ve had box color in the last year, what you absolutely cannot live without and where you want the shortest layer to fall. That information gap is where bad haircuts are born.
We talked to five celebrity hairstylists—Gina Rivera, founder of Phenix Salon Suites and stylist to Grammy and Coachella clients; Nick Arrojo, TLC’s What Not to Wear veteran and founder of Arrojo NYC Salon; Rogerio Cavalcante, founder of Brazil Edition and stylist for models and magazines; Beau Dieda, couture runway and celebrity hairstylist; and celeb hairstylist Chaz Dean, founder of WEN—about the questions that make them wince, what to say instead and the salon etiquette mistakes people make constantly without realizing it.
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The 1 Question You Should Never Ask Your Hairstylist (And Why It Makes Them Cringe)
“Can you just do whatever you want?” Every stylist on this list named some version of this, independently, without prompting. It’s that major!
Rivera says it’s about style, yes, but also about safety. “I think it’s important to collectively have a plan with your stylist of what you are looking for—and what you don’t want is equally as important,” she tells Parade. “If you give your stylist free reign, it might not align with what you were envisioning.”
Arrojo is more blunt about why this fails the person saying it, explaining, “It sounds trusting, but it’s almost never true. Does ‘whatever’ include a pixie, blunt bangs or losing six inches? Most clients have limits, they just haven’t explained them.”
Dieda, who has been behind the chair for over 20 years, points to the emotional weight it puts on the stylist. “It’s your hair, your lifestyle and your confidence. If you end up not loving it, that ‘do whatever you want’ quickly turns into regret.”
What to ask instead
The fix is easy. As Arrojo puts it: “If you want expert guidance, say ‘I’m open to a change. What do you think would suit me, and why?’ That gives the stylist creative room while keeping you involved in a decision you’ll live with long after leaving the salon.”
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Dean adds a second cringe-worthy question to avoid: asking for a discount because your former stylist charged less. Stylists invest constantly in education and training, he explains, and that expertise has real value. Bringing it up is a misunderstanding of how the industry actually works, he says.
And Brendnetta Ashley, Dippity-Do curly hair expert, has one last question that is going to drive any hairstylist mad: “How long is this gonna take?” asked mid-service.
“It instantly feels like I’m on a time crunch,” she says. “I want to give you the best service possible without either of us feeling time pressure.”
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The stakes are higher than they might seem from the client’s side of the chair. “You might lose your hair length that takes a year to regrow, pay for corrective work or end up with a cut that demands more styling than you can manage,” Arrojo tells Parade.
Color corrections can require multiple appointments and additional chemical processing. And then there’s the confidence piece—when your hair doesn’t feel like you, it always shows.
Rivera puts it in terms of the stylist-client relationship. When there’s no plan, there’s no reference point if something goes wrong. “It puts a lot of pressure on the stylist especially if it’s your first time with your client. Getting a new haircut or color is very personal and if you don’t like it, the stylist doesn’t have anything to refer back to,” she explains.
Ashley frames what “do whatever you want” actually means underneath: “It sounds trusting, but it doesn’t tell us what you actually like. Great hair happens when expectations are clear.” Cavalcante’s version of the same point is that great hair “isn’t about what the stylist likes—it’s about creating something that fits the client.”
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What To Do at the Salon for the Perfect Cut
Bring pictures. That’s the starting point every expert agrees on. Rivera goes as far as to say they’re non-negotiable.
“Pictures speak a thousand words,” she tells Parade. “They allow you to show the stylist what you are thinking and also include pictures of what you don’t want—this closes the gap on communication and direction.”
Beyond photos, Arrojo’s list of the right questions is worth saving:
“How will this look air-dried?” “Can I tie it back?” “Where will the shortest layer fall?” “How often will it need cutting?” “What will I need to do at home?”“The perfect cut,” he says, “isn’t simply the trendiest shape or the one that looks great after a salon blow-dry. It should work with your natural texture, styling ability, schedule and budget.”
Dieda says to think about your lifestyle. Asking something like “What style will still look good if I don’t spend 30 minutes on it every morning?” can change the entire direction of your consultation—and your life, honestly. (Not to be too dramatic but this is your hair we’re talking about!)
How to communicate with your stylist for the best results
Honesty is important. “Be truthful about your routine,” says Arrojo. “If you air-dry, avoid hot tools or only visit the salon three times a year, say so.”
He also recommends being clear about where you want the length to fall, because “a trim” and “shoulder-length” mean genuinely different things to different people.
Hair history is the other piece stylists desperately need and clients regularly hide. “If you’ve used box color, had extensions, used a keratin treatment or done anything chemically to your hair, tell your stylist,” shares Dieda. “That information completely changes how we approach your service.”
Dean says also to be clear about your hard no’s. “Nothing makes us feel worse than having a client leave not completely satisfied,” he explains.
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The 5 Biggest Mistakes People Make at the Hair Salon (And How To Avoid Them)
Here, the stylists reveal common mistakes made at the salon and how to avoid them.
1. Being vague and expecting telepathy
“Short,” “layered,” “natural”—these words mean something different to every person in every chair. Arrojo sees this regularly and says reference photos narrow the gap between what you’re picturing and what ends up on your head.
2. Expecting to look exactly like a celebrity reference
Different texture, density, extensions and professional styling are doing a lot work in that photo. Cavalcante recommends using inspiration images as references, not guarantees.
3. Pretending you’ll style more than you will
Every stylist has cut hair for someone who claimed to blow-dry daily and actually air-dries always. The cut looks great in the salon and then becomes a situation at home. Ask how the haircut behaves when air-dried and how it grows out between appointments.
4. Coming in when you’re short on time
“Coming on a day where you know you are short on time puts added stress on the stylist to complete the service in a shorter time slot than they had planned for,” Dean tells Parade. Book when you can actually be present.
5. Staying quiet when something feels off
“I’d rather know so if there is anything we need to correct we can correct it in this moment,” Ashley says. Speaking up during a haircut is not being difficult—it is the entire point of having a consultation and a conversation.
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