In contrast, a person with extreme self-reliance “may struggle to ask for help, minimize their needs, take on too much responsibility and feel uncomfortable receiving support, even when they're overwhelmed.”She continues, noting that, while being self-reliant can be a good thing, being excessively so can sometimes take a dangerous turn.“On the surface, they often look highly competent,” she shares. “Underneath, they may be exhausted from feeling like they have to do everything themselves and believing that no one can really help them ‘get it done.’”This risk of burnout is partly why it's important to be able to recognize this intense form of autonomy when you see it, including these seven phrases hyper-independent people use regularly.Related: Psychologists Say if You Were Told To ‘Toughen Up’ as a Kid, You Likely Have These 7 Traits
What Causes Hyper-Independence?
“Hyper-independence often develops when a person [feels] that their needs may not be met consistently or safely,” explains Dr. Capanna-Hodge. “It can also be fueled by perfectionism, where asking for help feels like a failure. Over time, the brain and nervous system adapt by relying on self-protection and self-sufficiency.”Hyper-independence is a learned behavior that she says generally begins at a young age.“In my clinical experience as a therapist, many hyper-independent people grew up feeling they had to be the responsible one, solve problems on their own or be 'perfect,'" she states. “The nervous system learns that it's safer to rely on yourself than risk being disappointed or let down.”Related: 5 ‘Exhausting’ Habits of Eldest Daughters, a Researcher Warns
7 Phrases Hyper-Independent People Use Regularly, According to a Psychologist
Here are some examples of common things said by individuals with extreme self-reliance.
2. “Don't worry about me”
Dr. Capanna-Hodge makes it clear that being hyper-independent doesn't necessarily mean that you don't want to be around other people or that you prefer to be alone. It can actually come out of a place of concern for others.
I love being a problem-solver as much as the next person, but, according to Dr. Capanna-Hodge, this phrase “often reflects a belief that self-reliance is the safest option.”
4. “I don't need help”
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6. “I'm fine”
“Hyper-independent people often minimize stress because they've learned to push through rather than reach out,” she shares.
7. “I don't want to bother anyone”
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If you determine that you want to try to overcome hyper-independence, she adds, then the main goal should be about becoming “comfortable both giving and receiving support.”
It's important, she adds, that while you try to push yourself out of your self-reliant comfort zone, you pay attention to what might be driving your need to do things on your own.
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