DEAR ABBY: It seems that everywhere I go, people expect tips.
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In this economy, I don’t feel the 20% rule should apply. For the price of a lunch for two at a sit-down restaurant these days, the tip costs as much as a small entree.
When I go through a drive-through, I don’t feel I need to tip because I’m not inside using their facility. But if I don’t, I get a disappointed look from the gal who gets paid to make and hand me my drink.
What are your thoughts?
— TIPPED OUT IN IDAHO
DEAR TIPPED OUT: The server you mentioned may need tips to survive on her sub-minimum or minimum wage income. However, a tip should never be requested, and for a server to follow your niece out of a restaurant to discuss a small tip is beyond the pale.
Although some establishments “suggest” tips that can go as high as 35%, most customers give 15% or 20% of the total bill.
Since you asked for my opinion, here it is: Quit complaining. If you think you received adequate service, leave a tip, and you will be warmly welcomed at whatever eatery you choose to patronize.
DEAR ABBY: Once a month, my wife and I play music trivia with my brother and his wife at a pub. We invited them, thinking it would be a great way for us to get closer. (I have an older brother we are closer to.)
As it turns out, my sister-in-law belittles my brother in front of us if he questions an answer someone might give (which we all do at one point or another).
At first, we laughed and considered it to be playful banter, but now it has become really uncomfortable. My brother doesn’t say anything back because he doesn’t want to create a scene, so the night always ends on a sour note for me and my wife.
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DEAR SOUR NOTE: Tell your brother and sister-in-law privately, together, that if she has any criticisms to make about your brother, you would prefer that it not be in public or in front of you because it makes you uncomfortable. It is the truth.
It may cause them to stop playing music trivia with you, which will solve your problem. However, if they show up and she does it again, end your participation, with no additional explanation needed.
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