Confidence: it's critical to thriving personally and professionally. However, psychologists stress that confidence is not the same as arrogance."Arrogance is more than confidence," shares Dr. Ernesto Lira de la Rosa, Ph.D., a psychologist and Hope for Depression Research Foundation media advisor. "It is a way of presenting yourself that signals you believe you are superior to others or that your perspective is the only one that matters."Noted, since most of us don't want to appear rude or like we feel like we're superior to someone else. However, oftentimes, people unintentionally use phrases that make them sound arrogant. While that doesn't mean that those who use these phrases are cocky or haughty, it can. Dr. Lira de la Rosa says superiority complexes can develop as a result of insecurity, cultural norms or learned habits. Yet, getting to the root of the issue is key to cultivating genuine respect and relationships. On the flipside, those same reasons can also influence whether someone hears arrogance in your words (even if you didn't mean it). "How others interpret our words depends on their own experiences and values, so a comment that sounds bold and self-assured in one culture may feel dismissive or condescending in another," he explains.Awareness is a solid first step. To help, psychologists share nine everyday phrases that can make you sound arrogant and how to nix them from your rotation.Related: People Who Were ‘Entitled’ in Childhood Often Develop These 14 Traits as Adults, Psychologists Say
9 Phrases That Can Make You Sound Arrogant, Psychologists Warn
Man talking and girls boring sititng on a sofa at home2. 'I already knew that.'
Even if this is true in the moment, psychologists advise against saying the quiet part out loud."This sounds arrogant because it essentially shuts down any conversation and shows the other person that you consider yourself above learning," explains Dr. Crystal Saidi, Psy.D., a licensed psychologist with Thriveworks. "People may use this phrase out of insecurity because admitting gaps in knowledge feels unsafe for them."
4. 'Not to brag, but...'
Dr. Vinall cuts right to the chase with this phrase. "Yes, you're bragging," she states. "You know it, and they know it. Such bragging sends the message that everyone ought to know that you are superior."Related: This Is the #1 Mistake People Make During Small Talk, Jefferson Fisher Warns
6. 'I don't have time for this.'
"Dismissing someone else's communication as unworthy of your time suggests your time is more valuable than others' and that they are not worth engaging with," Dr. Vinall reports. Dr. Sally Homburger, Psy.D.—a licensed psychologist—echoes these sentiments, adding that this phrase not only makes you sound arrogant but is downright hurtful. However, she also holds empathy for people who use it."Usually, we say this one when we are feeling frustrated, hot or tense," she explains. "It is a way of shutting down. Try to take a few deep breaths and approach this conversation later."Related: 22 Surprising Habits That Make You 'Instantly Unlikable,' Psychologists Warn
8. 'I'm sorry you feel that way, but...'
Dr. Homburger shares that a simple, one-word tweak can actually make this phrase sound less arrogant."Try using 'and' instead of 'but' when possible," she says. "A lot of phrases that sound arrogant often are due to the types of words we use or the way we communicate. Trying 'and' would at least allow someone to hear that their feelings are validated before you share yours."Related: 22 Surprising Phrases That Make You 'Instantly Unlikable,' Psychologists Warn
1. Know your audience
Before letting a potentially arrogant phrase fly, put yourself in the other person's shoes."Perhaps this is someone who does not know much about finance, psychology or does not take an interest in the subjects, for example," Dr. Homburger explains. "Is there a way you can rephrase the information to not make yourself sound superior?"
3. Become comfortable with the phrase 'I don't know.'
It really is the antidote to arrogance. "This is one of the most confident things a person can admit," Dr. Saidi notes. "Instead of pretending to know it all, try saying, 'I’m not sure, but I’d love to learn.' This really humanizes you and invites connection and collaboration."
5. Ground yourself in self-worth rather than comparison
Comparison is the thief of joy and fuel to arrogance's fire."When you truly feel secure, you don’t need to overcompensate externally," Dr. Saidi explains. "Try to build confidence through growth, not dominance over others."She suggests journaling about what makes you proud of yourself or trying therapy to increase self-worth and confidence.Up Next:
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Dr. Ernesto Lira de la Rosa, Ph.D., is a psychologist and Hope for Depression Research Foundation media advisor.Dr. Deborah Vinall, Psy.D., LMFT, is a Doctor of Psychology, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a certified EMDR and Brainspotting practitioner and the Chief Psychological Officer with Recovered.org.Dr. Crystal Saidi, Psy.D., is a licensed psychologist with Thriveworks.Dr. Sally Homburger, Psy.D., is a licensed psychologist.Hence then, the article about psychologists warn these 9 phrases can make you sound arrogant was published today ( ) and is available on Parade ( Saudi Arabia ) The editorial team at PressBee has edited and verified it, and it may have been modified, fully republished, or quoted. You can read and follow the updates of this news or article from its original source.
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