It can be so exciting to start expanding your family, but because not everybody's fertility journey is the same, you may want to exercise caution around friends, family or coworkers when it comes to sharing your experience. "Fertility issues can be an emotional rollercoaster for couples," Dr. Byrd acknowledges. She adds that if someone is quietly dealing with fertility struggles, hearing about a positive fertility experience could be triggering for them.You may want to share this experience with friends or family in your life who you know will receive the news positively—and navigate with a little more caution around acquaintances that you don't know as well.Related: 7 Things You Should Never, Ever Post Online, According to Psychologists
2. You're Dealing With a Health Problem
Similarly to the health issues topic, legal issues are another area where you may not want to overly volunteer information. "Maybe it goes without saying, but people can often be judgmental," Dr. Byrd notes. "Sometimes our closest friends and family may even be the worst culprits ... judgment can often come from a place of concern or worry, but it does not feel good to be on the receiving end."If you don't want to be met with negativity surrounding a legal battle, keeping things to yourself or sharing just with a trusted partner or close friends could be the way to go.Related: 5 Things Classy People Never, Ever Reveal About Themselves in Public, According to an Etiquette Expert
4. You Got a Raise
You may think a colleague is your friend, but you never really know for sure. Dr. Byrd says "workplaces can be notorious for rumor mills," which can make it difficult to confide in a coworkers safely.
6. Your Political Views
Dr. Hafeez cautions against sharing "strong opinions" with groups or individuals you don't know as well, especially at work. "[Talking about] polarizing issues may quickly create tension if the person you are talking to has a different view," she warns.You may want to stick to discussing those subjects with people you know well—or be prepared to defend your opinions if you're speaking with someone whose political beliefs you're not as sure about.
8. You're Having Relationship Problems
You can't control how anyone will respond to what you tell them, so you may want to be a little more guarded when sharing about any relationship problems you may be dealing with. "Marital or relationship issues can be touchy because you might not yet be open to feedback from the person you’re sharing with," Dr. Byrd says.Dr. Hafeez also recommends staying off this topic in work settings where it can "blur the lines of professionalism and boundaries."Discussing your relationship issues with your actual partner can be helpful as you navigate through any tough spots, but Dr. Hafeez recommends being careful about how much you share. "Expressing every momentary suspicion or irritation as it arises can undermine trust if it becomes habitual," she notes. "These things can backfire because they sow seeds of pain or distrust that are hard to eradicate."She says that honesty in a relationship is important so long as it's "tempered with discretion as to what will strengthen the marriage rather than weaken it," adding, "Some thoughts are best mulled over in private, or with a trusted friend or therapist, before a decision is made whether or not to voice them within the marriage."
9. Personal Details in New Relationships
How To Know Who To Trust
If you do want to talk about one of these touchy topics, you can—you just have to do so with someone you trust. Colleagues are always going to be tough, says Dr. Byrd, because you can't ever really know if they have your best interests at heart or if they plan to relay your opinions to others at work. "Think about the history with the person you're sharing with," Dr. Byrd cautions. "Have they ever broken your confidence in the past? Is there someone else who may be a better option to share with?"
Dr. Byrd says you may also be able to trust what "your gut" says about a person or situation, but she adds the only real way to build a relationship that allows vulnerability is to be vulnerable. "You can test the waters by starting [by sharing] things that do not feel too sensitive," she shares. "As you begin to build comfort, check in with yourself—is it time to share something [bigger] with this person?"
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