Then, I was in my twenties, averagely attractive, and every few minutes, a man would glance at me. They might smile, flirt briefly, comment on my outfit or tell me to cheer up because it might never happen.
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I know that many women mourn the feeling of invisibility that can come as we get older. A recent poll by the clothes label Klass found that 44 per cent of women have struggled with ‘feelings of being overlooked and unacknowledged’, while one study found, rather shockingly, that women start to feel ‘invisible’, both socially and at work, at just 36.
In her 20s Flic experienced a very different feeling of visibility to men
For others, the awareness of no longer being a sexually attractive being (to strangers, at least), is a painful loss, particularly because many women have learned to validate ourselves based entirely on how youthful and attractive we look. “It also stretches beyond that,’ adds Dipti. “Shops market to us as if we’re ancient, TV storylines forget we have sex drives, dreams and identities outside of being mums or grandmothers.”
Dipti points out that it is not anti-feminist to mourn attention: ‘Our brains are wired for recognition and reward. That constant feedback loop of being seen as desirable triggers oxytocin, dopamine, even adrenaline – all released through the lens of connection and approval.’
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It is liberating to no longer face judgment from strangers, and no more be wondering if I’m attractive enough, thin enough or cheerful enough to win a competition I didn’t know I’d entered.
Witness the rebirth of Pamela Anderson, once every lad’s pin-up. She’s now 58, she’s chopped off her flowing blonde hair and no longer wears make-up, and she’s enjoying a glorious career renaissance and reported new love with Liam Neeson.
Embracing our new ‘invisibility’ can be a liberation, says Dipti. ‘Many women feel a sense of relief. They can walk through the world without flinching under the gaze of judgment or comparison.’
With celebrities turning their back on the anti-ageing industry, it’s easier to get older with ease – and no fear of judgementWithout regular external validation, self-doubt can creep in, but trust me, there is a happy land of confidence on the other side of ‘young and hot.’
“Losing so-called sexual power creates space for a deeper, more grounded power to emerge,” says Dipti. “The kind that comes from experience and inner authority.” What replaces the approving male gaze as we age, she says, is the approving self-gaze – “and that is a far more sustainable source of power.”
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