What’s new? What have you been up to? Life update, please – when faced with this dismal nonsense I refuse to copy the people around me as they list off their baby, book, house purchase, marriage or podcast, both because I would quickly be revealed as a liar and because I am not convinced it is what anybody really wants to know.
For a start, it implies that “achievement” and “value” are the same thing – a dangerous equivalence that reduces the rich experience of life to a samey tick list, when we all know (or ought to) that the mere fact of a marriage, for example, is not proof of happiness or success, and that there is more than one way to have a fulfilling life.
You’re not allowed to ask any of this stuff, and obviously, fair enough, but it does rather stilt the chat. You don’t get to know anybody better, either. You’re just supposed to beam along and be impressed. If you are honest when “what’s new” is not good news, or if life’s simply plodding along as it does for most of us, you’ve killed the vibe, so you really can’t win.
I felt like I was in a sad sitcom a few years ago when I stood in a corner at a party and my companions, probably accidentally, outdid each other reporting their new film, their engagement, their big move to the country. I was happy for them – but I just couldn’t be arsed to feel unaccomplished by comparison or even try to be self-deprecating, as if I should make a big joke about my modest relative success.
I wasn’t able to hide the pride I felt about this endeavour, which took several hours and did, unfortunately, involve a lot of black smoke and mess, because I was proud.
square STEFANO HATFIELD I’m a teacher, so I can’t possibly go to Glastonbury
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I’m interested in this! You don’t have to reveal any intimate or personal details about your life, but I get a sense of who you really are and the kind of stuff that makes you light up. And I promise that if I tell you about the kombucha bomb I’ve accidentally brewed in my cellar, or the 15 hours I spent reading about spies on Reddit over the weekend, you know a hell of a lot more about me than if I’d bragged about an interview I did at work or my upcoming girls’ trip to San Sebastián.
The next time you are tempted to reel off your personal headlines, I suggest you instead tell people about the secret project in your basement.
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