Name-calling may not break your bones. However, it's a sign of gaslighting when the names hurled in your direction cause you to question your reality. It's also emotionally abusive, even if it doesn't leave physical scars. Dr. Richardson says common names gaslighting partners might use are "crazy" and "unstable." For instance, after being called out for raising their voice, she explains a gaslighting spouse may say, "You're crazy. I wasn't yelling at you.""This is also a very defensive response, but it’s drawing on gaslighting techniques that make someone question their perceptions and reality," she shares.Related: 6 Things a Relationship Therapist Is Begging Married Couples To Stop Doing
2. Blatant lying
Say the argument between Partner A and Partner B overspending keeps going. Dr. Richardson says Partner A could kick the gaslighting up a notch by lodging an accusation at Partner B, like, "See? You are so irresponsible. You always lose things. This is why you cannot be trusted with money.""These behaviors are red flags of gaslighting because they are very intentional and designed to make someone question their reality," she explains.Related: 35 Common Gaslighting Phrases in Relationships and How To Respond, According to Therapists
4. Isolating you from family and friends
Dr. Richardson says that people who gaslight their partners don't always stop with people. They may also try to turn you off to things you love, like a hobby or cherished item."For example, an abusive partner might tell someone that...they constantly lose things, so that they cannot be trusted with a family heirloom," she explains. "Again, the point of this behavior is to make someone question their ability to care for themselves and others, including other things, and then they need to be dependent on their partner for help."Related: 'I’m a Psychologist—Here’s the #1 Reason You Might Need Marriage Counseling'
What To Do if Your Spouse Gaslights You
1. Lean on your support system
Sometimes, our bellies deliver the hard truth that our heads and hearts try to deny."We all have intuition, and our bodies are programmed to let us know when something doesn’t feel right," Dr. Richardson says. "In order for someone to successfully gaslight another person, they need to create enough distrust so that the person no longer listens to their instincts. If a situation feels unsafe or unhealthy, it probably is. Seek out a neutral party to talk through."
3. Practice self-compassion
4. Seek help
Help might include individual, couple's or family therapy. These are big, important notes: "It is important to remember that we cannot force another person to get help, but we can get help for ourselves," Dr. Richardson says. When someone is the victim of gaslighting, they may need to work with a trauma specialist to help them recover and rebuild their sense of self."She adds that you'll want to learn ways to manage conversations or interactions with an emotionally abusive person."Couples or family counseling is contraindicated if abuse is actively occurring in a marriage," Dr. Richardson says. "However, if the perpetrator has gotten individual help and is on the road to recovery, couples counseling can be very helpful to work on rebuilding trust and learning new, healthy relationship patterns."
Related: 7 Things a Narcissist Always Does at the End of a Relationship, According to Psychologists
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